“Hi Darlin’”
My grandmother, who would have been 81 today had she not died four years ago, always opened a conversation that way. My mom (her daughter) does it sometimes too, but I still hear her voice when I hear the statement, and when I think of my grandmother, this phrase comes to mind.
One of the things that my mother and I were recently talking about was my young-adult brother asked why my mom always ends a conversation with “love you”. She mentioned that growing up in the non-touchy feely days, she didn’t hear that often from her family, and she made an effort to say it to them as she got more “touchy feely”. She says that she has no regrets about the sudden death of my grandmother as she knows that she died knowing that my mom loved her. And, I, who am blessed to be raised by such a self-aware woman, am secure in the knowledge that my parents love me and if, God forbid, they were to die tomorrow, I would have the memory of them ending conversations with those words.
So, in memory of my grandmother, tell those you love that you love them. Often.
posted by Mimi @ 8/20/2007 07:38:00 PM
14 Comments
14 Comments:
Oh Mimi! What a sweet post. May your dear grandma rest in peace!
This touched my heart. You are so fortunate to have a family that knew how to give love in this way.
Your grandmother sounds like a very special lady. May her memory be eternal.
What would the world do without grandmas? I think they are God's special helpers.
What a beautiful reflection this is, Mimi. May your grandma's memory be eternal.
God Bless you!
God has blessed you, that you can remember your grandmother with a smile in your heart. May perpetual light shine upon her. And may we all take to heart that lesson she taught you--let the people you love KNOW you love them.
So true Mimi.
My grandma used to call us love, "come here love" I always thought it was so endearing and I never hear anyone using it.
Now you're talkin'! What would our families be without babas (or dedes, for that matter!)? Oh, the memories! The odour of kulich baking before Easter... making varenyki before a feast... seeing the icon lamps burning in baba and dede's house... hearing the stories of life in old Russia and in China... baba teaching me how to light a candle in church. How much my (and your) grandparents gave me (you)! What love!
I miss them. Vechnaya Pamyat.
Vara
Vara, you are rich, with such memories!
One of the last conversations I had with my mother consisted in her saying, "Why do people make such a big deal about saying 'I love you'? I think it's stupid. I don't need to hear it." And after she died, it occurred to me that not once in my lifetime had I ever heard my mother say she loved me.
Yeah. We need to hear it.
I have one grandparent left, my maternal grandmother. And I value every moment that I have spent with her.
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Laborpayne
I can completely identify with this post! My mother was never one for affection or expressing love. It is necessary to do so with our loved ones. Thanks for the great reminder.
Mimi so very touching. Your Grandma and my Dad were born in the same year - 1926...it is so important to tell people we love them each day!
Mimi - you brought tears to my eyes today when I read your post. I have been missing her so much, which makes sense since this is the month of both her birth and her death. Thanks for reminding me of one of her best attributes - her love for her grandchildren! Love you, sweetie!
Thank you so much for all your sweet words, and wonderful memories of the grandmothers in your lives.
And, mom, ok now you made ME tear up. Hugs.
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