Random thoughts
Mother of the Year Award – let’s just say I’m not winning that one anytime soon. My kids are driving me nuts – school problems, church problems, sportsmanship problems, homework problems. Yikes, yikes, yikes. Right now, I’m not feeling like being a mommy. Sigh. This parenting gig has to get easier sometime, right?
Molly is sucking my money – first, she has this great link to Renaissance magazine, and then she posts about a Fundraising Scrapbooking Supply sale . Today is the last day for the sale – so if you need something, hie thee over there. I’m excited about my new supplies, though, and looking forward to the magazine.
Speaking of sucking my money, I just bought some great stamps at Purple Onion Designs, and got them mounted last night, so I’ll be playing with them shortly! Whohoooo. Excellent and quick customer service and a couple of extras thrown in!
Reading my newest TIME magazine, I came to the realization that I must have not gotten an issue Huh.
England and France united? My lady, Eleanor would have been proud.
Where the Red Fern Grows – Xavier chose this as his “Historical Fiction” recently, and enjoyed it. I was concerned as I knew it was sad, but he said “most good books have a sad part” He then followed with, “you should read it. You are pretty emotional, though, so you’ll cry”. Boy does he have me pegged, as I did. But, it was pretty good, there were some very well written scenes and some interesting topics we discussed.
I've heard rumors of a recent DeLurking week, so if you stop by, comment in the comment box so I know you've been here.
Happy Tuesday!
posted by Mimi @ 1/30/2007 12:54:00 PM
28 Comments
28 Comments:
Oh Mimi, I hate times like that. When you have more than one its almost impossible to NOT have someone giving you grief. I sure hope it ends soon for ya.
I'm a lurker, but you may recognize me as mrs_zvonar in LiveJournal.
I enjoy reading your posts. Happy Tuesday!
-Christine
Mimi,
Momma should have said there would be days like this, there'sd be days like this! I was never given real-life parenting lessons by my mother and my own kids know exactly how life is because they've been exposed to so much, sadly.
I'm sorry that you feel overburdened right now, if I lived in your neck of the woods I'd be treating you to a cuppa right about now :-)
And stop making me so envious with all your U.S craft sites, please! LOL!
Americans have the best craft sites and the best craft prices,I'd live there just for that reason alone!
Know anyone who wants to adopt a fat old british hag and two sprogs?
Oh Mimi,it does get easier. It just seems that at the stage your kids are in it just keeps going on, and on, and on, and getting nowhere.
I think when your kids accuse you of something, "your unfair, your cheap, your controlling" they have issues of their own going on.
Keep smiling your beautiful smile. They will get confused that way!!
My dear Mimi, how I hate to dash your dreams, BUUUT! Let me say that it does get easier, when you have entered a nice rest home.LOL
To UKOK: Your momma should not have just told you that there would be days like this, but should also have told you HOW MANY.
I am not a mother, but I am the father of four adopted boys (all grown up now)and the grandfather of seven (five grandsons & two granddaughters). I raised the boys alone, while at the sametime fulfilling my duties as an Orthodox priest which wasn't easy, and even though they are all grown with families of their own now, I am just as busy with each of them and the grandkids, and guess what, I am loving every minute.
So, Mimi, you have many years of happy and blessed memories ahead of you, and when you look back, you too will say: "Thank you, dear Lord,thank you".
Oh yes, one other thing, for what it is worth, you have my vote for Mother of the Year.
Oh, Mimi! I can understand where you are coming from so much just now. I just had a nice meal with my family and then the smart talk and the rolling eyes syndrome began. I have been working on "attachment" back to parents that I got from reading that book I posted about Hold On to Your Kids. You just gotta read that one! I am telling you...our kids are so peer oriented and tv oriented that it is not funny. I am trying to do this in a loving way and I am trying to use my sense of humor and not get too serious, but tonight it was a bit much and I layed it down...and Dan layed it down and we are going to be consistent with this disrespect thing...it has to stop. Both kids are happy as long as they are doing something or if they think we are being completely and perfectly fair but if one thing gets out of sorts...pow the hatefulness begins! We are their parents for pete's sake! We are not nobodys and their peers never get spoken to like this...they would be way too afraid of losing those relationships...but I'm more concerned about losing mine with them way too soon. They don't speak to other adults...oh yeah, they nod and say "Yes or No," but where are anything conversations over two words long? This book I'm telling you about describes everything so well that is going on around here that it is refreshing to see someone pick up on it. Progress and change can be fine, but when it messes with the family too much...it stinks! So, soon I'll get an apology and all that because they'll want something, but you know what...this time I'm not giving in so easily...respectful and wholesome conversations around the dinner table every evening is the new rule and without having a respectful one (and yes we can laugh and joke around too) then I won't follow through on the things that they are hoping for...simple as that. I'll still reach for hugs and speak calmly, however, this is going to be the new plan from now on. Conversing with adults...yep...thanks for letting me vent here...it helps and hopefully it didn't ruin your day when you read it! Ooops! Seriously, try the book. God bless.
PS Your little guy sounds very thoughtful of you! :) That is a good book too...the Red Fern book.
Suzanne PPSS Oh, Mimi, I agree with one of your commentors, you go ahead...give yourself that little MOM of the Year award...its okay! :)
been here
I said a prayer for Supermom strength to be delivered to you ASAP! Hugs!
Mimi,
Its the next morning after my last comment and I've prayed and read a little more of the book. I need to add that I realize that the main reason for their not "conversing" with adults has very much to do with the trade-off, you might call it that they have gotten "used" to only having to converse in the way their peers "expect" them to and usually not much more. Does that make sense? One of the authors explained it that way and so because they are more peer oriented after getting older or because they may be so inclined to be close to their peers, they not only want to "dress" a certain way, or listen to certain kinds of music, but that if the peer doesn't expect more adult friendliness, for example, then their brain just doesn't move quickly to respond to jumping back into the kind of conversation parents and adults relate to better or consider "friendly conversation." I see this and I don't think it is merely an excuse...it does make sense when you think about it.
In order to get back to that better, parents have to get the attachement back but force and coersion and bribery very seldom work...and only use firm tactics as a last resort for serious matters, but last night seemed serious because it just takes so long to change back but that could be because the parent has let peer orientation take over for longer than they realized, so getting it back takes time and love BUT consistency. My problem is I have to learn how to forgive too more ...not necessarily with words as much as in the way I look at them or hug them and try to get past and to learn how to help them be more enjoyable in conversing.
Any ideas? How does one develop better manners as in how to converse more with loving adults and enjoy doing that? It happens at holiday meals, but oftentimes that is a disaster too...when sometimes the teens spend alot of time making fun of some of the older folks...they think it is kidding, but it actually does not sound that way, so even at those times, it isn't what it could be...where have we lost that connection with the old and the young? It can be a very sad thing.
Anyway, I wanted to come back to write this because I sounded pretty angry last night and today I want you to know that I am thinking of other ways and that it is good if one needs to vent to come here to a place like this because this kind of thing won't make matters worse and sometimes you have to "get it out," so to speak. Thanks again and I hope I
haven't gone on too long...close to a book now! Ha! Suzanne
Sorry about the bumps in the parenting road - I imagine it must get better...at least please tell me it does since I plan to head there soon...eeks!
X cracks me up!
Good to see you, and I hope your kid-troubles get better soon.
I swear, if just the homework magically got done on its own I would be a super happy mom.
Glad to see I am not alone. lol
"Sigh. This parenting gig has to get easier sometime, right?"
When you die, but not before, I think.
And that is what love is for. =)
I'm not a lurker, just a sparse commentor. Good luck with that parenting thing...I've only just begun in that regard. And it's bad enough.
I will give you a mom of the year award... I plan on calling you in a few years for advice when my boys reach your boys age:)
And Where the Red Fern Grows is an excellent book... a real tear jerker. the movie is also pretty good
I'm still here!
Everyone must read Where the Red Fern Grows at least once during their life time!
I hope your week goes smoothly for you!
Mimi,
I feel comfort just reading your comments and blogs. We are united in faith, motherhood, and our love for good friends and laughter. May God bless you and your family.
I was here too!
I stopped by! :-) I mimic what everyone else says--it's a phase, it'll get easier, and it'll get harder. That's just parenting for ya. Sorry I can't be more optimistic! And I doubt it'll get easier in the nursing home either. I think it'll get easier when all we have to do is lie 6 feet under. :-P
None of us would have believed her if Momma had told us there'd be days like this, and how many!
Hey Mimi its Traci, not a lurker, but some of those can be pretty interesting, when they bother to speak up! Hope things improved. I am off to check out your link to the Renaissance Magazine. My best friend and I go to a Northern Calif. Faire every year, dressed in our finest Garb, and have the best time!
Take Care, Traci
I remember hearing Jim Trelease (author of the Read Aloud Handbook) speaking once; he shared about the time he and one of his kids read 'Where the Red Fern Grows' together and how they cried together while sitting on the couch... the story was a bit humerous, but reflected the fact that yes... 'Where the Red Fern Grows' does tug at ones emotional heart strings.
Mimi,
We have had our fair share of challenges with our children; it can be overwhelming sometimes... there are some days when I feel like I am barely keeping my head above water - trying to teach the to be in the world and not of it, trying to teach them responsibility.... not knowing if I am going about it the right way.... so I hear you.
peace
Oh, and I have to say that we all *hated* Where the Red Fern Growns with a vengeance. When we were done with it I think we destroyed it. I guess that's why there's lots of different books, for lots of different tastes!
Father, bless,
Thank you for the award.
Each and every one of you touched my heart with your comments, thank you so much. I appreciate hearing your struggles, your good points, your love and your strength.
And, Suzanne - I put that book on hold at the library. Thanks!
Great, Mimi! Glad to see what you will think. I told my sister about it tonight. Her daughter has a little one that is having some major major problems with anti-social behavior. I am praying that she will read this book soon. I will lend her mine as soon as I am done or as soon as I see her again. It is too important. Suzanne
Checking in....
and ((hugs)) on the parenting thing. We all have those days...
i and my cute cat Cleo in Ottawa are here. hang in there! i love your posts and believe you are a treasure that God loves very much
i and my cute cat Cleo in Ottawa are here
I am so tickled to know that Cleo reads! (and you too!)
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